Phubbing Could Be Ruining Your Relationship – What You Can Do to Save It

Are you guilty of phubbing? If you don’t know what phubbing is already then you’re probably wondering what the heck it is. Well phubbing is defined as the act of snubbing someone in a social setting by looking at their phone instead of paying attention. Many people have reported issues with their relationships that stem from constant cellphone use over socialization.

How much do you phub?

To get a sense of how often you and your partner phub each other, answer each item on a scale from 1 (never) to 5 (all the time):

1) During a typical mealtime that my partner and I spend together, my partner pulls out and checks his/her cell phone.

2) My partner places his or her cell phone where they can see it when we are together.

3) My partner keeps his or her cell phone in their hand when he or she is with me.

4) When my partner’s cell phone rings or beeps, he/she pulls it out even if we are in the middle of a conversation.

5) My partner glances at his/her cell phone when talking to me.

6) During leisure time that my partner and I are able to spend together, my partner uses his/her cell phone.

7) My partner does not use his or her phone when we are talking .

8) My partner uses his or her cell phone when we are out together.

9) If there is a lull in our conversation, my partner will check his cell phone.

What the study found

If you’re concerned about your answers, you’re not alone. A whopping 46.3 percent of respondents said their partners phubbed them, and 22.6 percent said it caused issues in their relationship.

The researchers concluded that even momentary cell phone distractions add up. If one partner is repeatedly distracted by his or her phone, chances are the other partner begins to feel less and less satisfied with the relationship. (

What You Can Do

1. Hold a phubbing intervention – will help you tell your partner they’re a phubber with an email. If that doesn’t work, print on of the websites posters and put it up in plain view.

2. Hold their phone ransom – Ransomly is a new app and device that will allow you to block your significant others apps until they stop phubbing you.

3. Make them pay – When sitting down at dinner, put all the phones in the middle of the table, first phubber picks up the check! If you’re at home, you phub, you do the dishes! (